jealous of the past
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
Hi, I have a real problem with jealousy. I am not jealous of anything in the present but I am jealous of my wife's past. She had more sexual partners than me and I feel inadequate because of this. I can't get the images out of my mind of her in bed with her exs and it makes me feel I missed out on something when I was younger. How can I accept her past and stop feeling jealous?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Love and understanding
Hi. I have a similar problem that is gravely affecting my feelings that's why I'm here reading and trying to find a practical and positive answer. I sympathize with your feelings and I understand how horrible it is. I'm also trying to deal with my girlfriend's past before we met. I don't why it bothers me so much and the more I think about her past relationships the darker it becomes in my mind. This forum has helped me with this problem that I now know affect so many. Your example and George's advice will help me try to focus on the relationship and not the past that I have nothing to do with. I must learn to respect that and rejoice in the love of the person who professes that she loves me so much too. It is difficult and my inquiries has strained our relationship of late. We cannot change the past and none of us is perfect. But we can focus on the present to mold the future. May you all be blessed with love and understanding and happiness.
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