My boyfriend and I dated for 2 and a half years and we were the "perfect" couple.
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My boyfriend and I dated for 2 and a half years and we were the "perfect" couple. All of our friends aspired to be like us because everyone could feel the love we had. It was amazing. I used to often think that this may be to good to be true. Well after 2 and a half years...it was. Approx. 8 months ago, I went through a really hard time with different issues. I thought it was his job to be there for me and offer support. About a month after I started experiencing these things, he just stopped talking to me for a week (we live in different cities but we saw each other 4 days a week). He finally answered MY call and told me that he needed time and I was just floored. I was so devastated, but was willing to wait. During that time, he started seeing someone, but still would text me, email me, and call from time to time to keep me hanging. Alot of things happened and we got back together. I then found out that he was dating a girl who had been hitting on me for 6 months! He said he did it to make me mad. Whatever! Anyway, she then began texting me saying that she only dated him to get me away from him and started asking me to be with her. Im not a lesbian at all! So I showed these to him and he went off. Well we have been back together for 2 months and 2 days ago, I caught him checking personal ads, which he lied about and tried to turn it around on me and make me feel terrible. I went on the web site and found his ad!! I called him and he told me that a friend set it up as a joke. He lied to me and deliberately deceived me. Im so hurt. On the phone, he knew he was busted so he hung up. I have not heard from him since. I would have never thought he would do this to me, but he did. I will never speak to him again or get back should he come running. How do I get over him. I truly love him from the bottom of my heart and in my mind Im scared I wont be able to love someone like I did him. Will no one be able to compare? Im really devastated, confused, and hurt beyond belief. I cant stop crying. Why, he did this to me. Help.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Hang in there
Wow who knew this was some sort of male pattern. I have been with a man that I love with all my heart for the last 7 months. While its only been 7 months we have been through so much together (good and bad). Then he goes and buys a condo directly behind mine!!! Insanity if you don't love someone at least to think your relationship will last for a while. Then last week, after I had a bit of an emotional breakdown he just stopped talking to me! Completely!!!! Not a word in a week. I don't understand why a man would do this, I think if you are done you should at least be man enough to say it and say goodbye. I never thought he would do this either. Hang in there. I am.
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