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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
My significant other told me when we first started dating that he did not like "me" to wear low-cut shirts, spaghtetti straps etc., He likes me to look nice. But not too much skin. He thinks that if we take the relationship to the next level, then, I should visually take myself off "the flirtatious look" market. I think this is a jealousy issue and he thinks that it is a moral dilemma. He wouldn't dress revealing and that I shouldn't.
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
Not a control issue
Asking my signficant other not wear clothing that is so revealing is not a control issue. Speaking from a man's point of view, you're simple asking that you don't show so much of your body when in public. My wife has a nice behind and I don't mine if she wears a nicely fitted dress, because I like seeing her backside, but when you start to uncover it, the picture is given that you are yet on the market and it's disrespectful to your man or woman. Men like to think that you belong to them. Not to control you but it shows your commitment and it sound good to a mans ears when he hears his girl say to him "I'm yours and what I got is for your eyes only." Also stop putting the jealousy tag on men. Women get jealous too! If we turned our head to look a another women who is wearing something that is revealing you're ready to take our head off and tell us how impolite we are for looking. I believe your man has the MORAL right to ask you to dress down somewhat. If you have any concern for him, you would. He is not trying or feeling his way to a path of control, but he just made a request.
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