I'm trying to take it slow, but this guy is a turtle!
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
So i really like this guy, and he started giving me mixed signals - anyway...i'm becoming friends with his best friend and his friend told me that the guy i like has never had a girlfriend before. (btw i'm a senior in high school) his friend also told me that he could make me and that guy i like to hook up.
when he asked me if i wanted him to do that for me..i just kinda hesitated. coz i really don't want his friend to hook us up..i want the guy i like to do it. so the convo about the guy i like kinda faded away...and now i'm stuck on what to do. i'm not a virgin and i've had a few boyfriends. he's never had a girlfriend and i heard he's only received oral sex. so now i'm not sure what to do?
this year i told myself to be less aggressive due to the fact i tend to move too fast and get hurt because i let guys use me. so far i've been doing really well with this guy, basically letting him make the moves. but he's really slow at it and i'm afraid it might be the fact that he's never really had a girlfriend before and he's a pretty quiet guy to begin with.
so my question for you guys is..what should i do with him? should i ask his friend for advice on how to get the guy? should i start making the moves? should i have his friend take initiative and hook us up? or should i just let time pass? i really like this guy and i'm pretty sure he likes me...so i was wondering what the best way to handle this without the guy using me or me getting hurt by it? any help on this situation will do! thank u so much!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Go at it
my advice to you is, (from experience) is to go at it, and think of it in 2 ways, one you can teach him, help him out with dating. or/and 2 you can think of it as him being respectful and not wanting to direspect you in anyways. even if thats not the fact. but, there is a consequence to this, you already being experienced, and him not, if much went further between you to, he could fall inlove with you but what if he's not doing something right that you take disadvantage???
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