Scared of being hurt again.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi again, the telling jealous thoughts to stop (about the past) is working pretty well, but I have one more problem I have had for a while, and not just with my current. I have trust problems because I have been cheated on a couple of times in the past when I have become really close to someone. I don't tollerate cheating, either so obviously I ended those relationships, as I considered it unhealthy and needless negativity in my life. But I am scared of being hurt by my current in the same way, even though I know I shouldn't take it out on him. I've tried everything in past relationships to trust again, but It kept getting shattered. Now I have found someone perfect for me (As you know from my last message, he is in the military) So trust, already being hard for me when it comes to men, can be even harder, but I REALLY want to trust him. I suggested maybe we take a break from eachother (even though I really dont want to) just to see where we end up and he got upset and said he doesn't want that, and that he doesn't wanna lose me, at one point he even started getting teary eyed and upset, So I scrapped that idea immediately as obviously it wasn't the right way to figure this out! Do you have any advice on how I should build up my trust? thanks
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Nobody is perfect
hi..my advice 4 u is..no one or nobody is perfect learn to trust 4 the reason it is one of the important ingredients in a relationship..if u love that prson..go!follow ur heart that is the best way to do but never 4get to know ur limitations so that if u got hurt u can accept it easliy and u can move on without getting too much hurt..loving is not a crime but it is a lesson to be learned by everyone,,people needs to be love even me..you,everybody!!!!
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