Trying so hard to heal, is it worth it?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. Our relationship for the most part was great. I never doubted him once. I recently found out that he had cheated on me. Something I had suspected shortly before I found out. My natural reaction was "it's over it's done" and I left it at that. However, I never saw a man act this way before, he broke down into tears, saying "throughout this whole thing he realised what it meant to love someone, and how to love someone, and never wanted to put us through this again." I didn't buy it at first. I couldn't get past the lies and the betrayal. However, we're still together, nine months later, and he tries everyday to make sure that I know how important I am and how much our relationship means to him. He's even been hinting at the fact that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. My problem lies in the healing part of all of this, naturally I'm going to be insecure, I want to believe and trust him again, but I want to know, if from anyone elses expierence, if they found it worth it. I love him, genuinely, with everything I have, I just want to stop doubting him.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Sounds like you know the answer! This is not an obstical its an opportunity. Dont be afraid. DONT FALL FOR TEARS. If you want out - get out. Its the best for all because it will hurt 10 times later. If you want to stay and you see a future with him- then get over what ever your fears or set backs are. Counseling jogging- I took up boxing. What ever you choose whats best for you ...do it and do it 110%. Dont sit around and waste precious time that could be spent doing something great. Like that band-aid- do you want to rip it off slow or fast to get the pain over with and move on? You can do this. Dont let fear or tears get in the way of what the right thing is.
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