Jealous when my bf looks at other girls...
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am 29 years old.... It's not like I am not attractive but, I am jealous over other women. Ever since I moved into my boyfriends home around Dec of 2006, I became Jealous! It is ruining our relationship. If it doesn't stop it will end it. If he watches T.V and a female is present on the screen I feel the anxiety build and I will say something like "Did you get a good look?" If we are out and about I am purposely looking at his eyes to see if he is checking out the ladies. I do not like to go any where just so I can prevent him from looking at other girls. I don't even like watching movies fearing the sex scenes or attractive women, afraid he is googling over them in his mind. In the beginning of our relationship he use To own several porn movies.I asked him to get rid of them... he later said he had but then I found out he was still watching them but hiding it or lying to me about not having them and watching it. Second we would watch t.v and he would make comments on ho nice the girls butt or breast were out of no where. I told him it bothered me and he has not done it since and he has not watched the porn. I am still jealous and can't get it out of my head.
Please Help, THANKS :D
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I ALSO HAD A SEVERE JEALOUSY ISSUE. EVERY SINGLE THING THAT BOTHERS YOU BOTHERED ME TOO AND STILL DOES ON OCCASION. I REALIZED IF I DIDN'T STOP THE MADNESS IT COULD END MY RELATIONSHIP SO,I BEGAN TAKING BETTER CARE AND PRIDE IN MYSELF. I LEARNED TO PAMPER MYSELF AND FINALLY TRULY BELIEVED THAT I DESERVED IT AND I BEGAN TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT AND SEXY! CONFIDENCE IS KEY. MEN RESPOND TO CONFIDENT WOMEN. WHEN YOU TAKE PRIDE IN YOURSELF IT SHOWS AND OUR MEN LOVE IT. AS A FEMALE YOU HAVE MORE POWER OVER YOUR MAN AND MEN IN GENERAL THAN YOU REALIZE BUT WHEN YOU TAKE THE POWER IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
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