In love with my best friends boyfriend who is also my best friend as well.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been friends with her and him for the same amount of time and we are all really close but I have always had feelings for him but she got to him first. He is exactly like me and we get along so well. But she plays with his head and talks about him to me behind her back. It's driving me crazy because he is sooo good to her and she's taking it for granted. I know i'm in love with him because I can't eat or sleep and he's all I think about even when I try to forget it, it just won't go away. I almost want to cry when I see them together because I know I could be what he wants her to be. What do I do? I don't want to lose them but I can't forget how I feel I didn't even ask for it. It's affecting my daily life and I want it back. Please help!!! Severely in love
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Caught in between
I am in basically the same situation as you. My bestfriend is going out with this great guy but the problem is that i might have feelings for him and i think he likes me. Sometimes i think he deserves much better then my bestfriend but sometimes i think she deserves better. this is such a tough situation because he talkes to me about my best friend and she talks to me about him so im basically caught in the middle and she thinks she is going to lose him to me so she talks bad about me to him and is trying to get him to forget all about me. so basically she is controlling him. Me and him talk almost every day eather on aim or the phone. Its so much fun and we get closer and closer everytime we talk. All im doin right now is listening to both of my friends and kind of sucking my feelings about the whole this see if that works. it might not be the best solution but it might help.
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