jealousy making me sick
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
We've been married 2 years and at first everything was fine, I was alittle jealous here and there, but then It just got worse one day. He used to say i was the only girl in the world he thought was attractive, then i asked him acouple of times if some actresses were attractive and he said yes, so that bothered me he changed his story and he looks away when boobs are on tv because he knows i get up set and he says there just boobs they dont mean anything but i think hes just saying that to make me feel better or that he doesnt want to fight. everytime i see a hot girl on tv, internet, bulletins, in a store i get upset and jealous. i instantly think he thinks their attractive and it makes me feel sick. we talk about it he says that he doesnt think their hot and doesnt want anyone but me but it still bothers me and i dont want him to see me without close cuz i dont look like the hot girls with nice bodies and boobs. I dont know how to kill the jealousy i feel and i love him and dont want our relationship to die out.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Don't let him look
No im sorry...but im another woman who understand u entirely...and im attractive. I know im beautiful and have a nice body...but i still dont want my boyfriend looking at other women when their naked....i dont look at naked guys, he doesn't look at naked girls....we both dont get hurt. Its still cheating...cuz he's looking not touching...same if the girl was in the room, i wouldn't expect him to look at her...i think it's wrong, and degrading. It hurts my feelings and i cry all the time about it. I just want to say, if u dont feel comfortable with him looking...then stop him, but the more u talk about it...the better u feel...and dont let anyone tell u , that u need to let him see or u need counceling...ur just a woman like me and i feel your pain. Men aren't portrayed like women so it's not fair...women are always valued for their looks...this is the society we live in today...
[RomanceClass: My advice was not aimed at *naked* women, but just normal women which is one of the things the writer was bother by]
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