He Slept with Me, He's Ignoring Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I meet this guy and I really started to like him. Well we ended up sleeping together and after that everything kinda changed. We used to talk a lot and hang out now its barely. If I want to talk then i have to be the one to make contact. He never calls me unless i call first. I ask him if he likes me or what is goin on, he says he does and he really wants us to be friends, but what i don't understand is that lately if I ask if we can see each other he acts as if he is busy.
I don't know if i should believe him or just forget about him. i mean does he like me or not. If he doesn't why doesn't he just say so. Now he is mad at me because I told him I'm tired of him ignoring me. The problem is i can't just put him out my mind and move on. I keep thinkin about him. What do i do.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
This same thing has happend to me once or twice. Which totally screws us up. It is hard to find a really good man.When we get our hopes up because, of all of their lies and bull $#*% they tell us and yes we shouldn't believe it no matter if it is what we want to here. Most men are horrible and will tell you anything to get you and once they get what they want they are done and don't feel they need to give us any kind of explainaion. For us we are left confused, hurt and used once more by a boy. Yes, boy because a real man will have enough respect to at least tell us they don't want anything serious. It is sad how many times this happens to us before we realize the game. Mabye we should start acting like boys and play them too. Ha Ha. When I feel bad I listen to Ciara's song like a boy and it impowers me. Don't worry this will soon pass too. I read that it takes only 1/2 the time that your relationship was to get over him. So if your relationship was 1 mo you should be over him in 2 weeks. Take some time for you workout and buy your self some new clothes and make him realize how stupid he is for not wanting to be with you. Good luck, stay strong and remember that this has nothing to do with you or the way you look your beautiful he is the stupid one who will lose out in the end.
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