I don't know what to do....
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and my jealousy has gotten really bad.. It's almost ended our relationship many times. I'm trying so hard to not be jealous but I dont know how to make it stop. Everytime I see another girl I automatically think he's looking at her. Everytime he talks to one of his Chick friends I get really upset and mad and think something is going on. I hate it when he's around other girls. It makes me want to go insane. I tried putting him through a test to see if he was really faithful to me but he found out it was me. I tried texting him from my friends phone and pretended to be another girl and at first he told the chick he had a girlfriend and then he ended up knowing it was me so he just ignored it. I NEED to have solid proof that he isn't going to cheat on me. I'm the kind of person where I need face evidence before I can believe something. I know that if I put him through another test and he passed it would help me a lot. But the problem is I don't have much friends at all. And the few friends I do have he knows all their cell phone numbers. I NEED to put him through another test. I just don't know how. I don't know what kind of test to put him through. I need help... Can you please give me some helpful suggestions on ways I can test his faithfulness.... I'm desperate. I'll try anything to make my jealousy stop. Thank you so much.... I hope to hear from you soon!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Open and honest
hey, ummm... i have the same type of problem with my boyfriend but i just am jealous eabout his sexual past. If you keep trying to pry at him liem yor doing then you guys will break up, i know this has to be making yuor guy go crazy b/c the love of his life(i'm assuming) isn't trusting him. What you need to do then is simply lay all of this out on the table and let him know what and how you are feeling, a honest relationship is a great relationship. Stop trying to catch him not doing something and just cherish and be happy b/c girl i9f he didn;t want you and he wabted another girl he wouldn't be with you.Love what you have cuz when you don't then you will lose what you love the most, ok. I promise you that if you are just open and honest with your man then everything will be ok, us girls have to be strong foir one another and always there for each other to depend on. Let him know that you have a problem with trust and jealous, and work on it, and if you guys are as close as you say then he will try to work at helping you with your issues by avoiding them or toning down for his baby!
a friend who cares and always will!!!!
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