I'm Extremely Jealous and I'm afraid He's Leaving Is there any Hope

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I am extremely jealous. I had a terrible childhood. I had a lot of problems at home. So much, that by 14 my parents had given up on me. I ran away, was promiscuous, tried some drugs (I was never addicted or anything). I got married at age 14. Between age 11 and 14 (until marriage) I was in and out of juveniles because of the running away. I have been treated badly by lots of men. I even worked as a stripper for a little while at age 17. I am a totally different person now. I am a junior in college, working on a bachelors degree in Computer Science, which was an accomplishment having quit school in the 8th grade. I got my GED and am on the Dean's List every semester. I don't do crazy or wild things anymore. In fact, I am pretty laid back and get along good with everyone else. My husband and I been together for 7 years now. I have never been able to trust him. I know I have drove him crazy. For a long time I had every reason in the world to trust him. I have put myself so much in his life that I don't know if I made up the reasons in my head or if they are really there. I don't know how to stop. I have told myself over and over that I'm not gonna do it today. I try to smile and seem not depressed, but it always comes out. Now I fear that he is getting ready to leave me. He is pulling away. I called him the other day at work and he must not known it answered. I heard him and his friends making fun of me. I also went and got some help a couple of years ago and the medicine I was on was making even more paranoid. I took it a few months and it just got worse. I stopped it and things have never been worse. I am afraid to go back, but I have made an appointment anyway. I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I am not a crazy person, even if I sound like one. Given all I have been through I think I am quite smart, too. I don't know how to control these urges. I am afraid that I am hopeless. I love my husband and don't want to loose him.

User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
I hate that I love him

I feel i have the same problem im 16 years old and i have been to jail for shoplifting and i have a tattoo
most people think thats not so bad but when your parents wont trust you any more because you went to jail your life pretty much becomes a liveing black hole. The summer of 2007 was the worst and most eye opening summer iv ever had
since i went to jail that summer my mom grounded me till school started again. Lets just say i had a lot of time to think to my self and for some reason i put in my head one day that id be single for the rest of my life. So now i have this boyfriend justin i can tell iv messed him up im too ignoent to just belive that he just loves me i dont under stand how someone loves me when all i do is just mess everything up .I dont think theres been one day where its been completly good and not stressfull on me . people tell me if its so hard for me to be in a relationship then why am i in one well i cant be totally sure on that but. i guess i love him and i hate that i love him

i need help im so messed up

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