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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
ive been dating this guy for like a year and three months.. we've talked about getting married and having children and stuff its just that he dont seem to be doing anything for it to happen.. at age 25 i would really want to get married and start building a new life with the man i love.. my bf seems to be confused on what he wants..at one point he's with me but then next he's not.. he says we need money before we can do that...i understand his point but maybe we can work on it together..im not asking him to marry me like tomorrow with a very fancy ceremony..what i asked him is with a judge...im now thinking that maybe he doesnt want to marry me at all..he's just stringing me along til he finds the one that he wants to marry.. what should i do.. i love him to death..and i feel he loves me back...i dont want this thing to be the cause of a break up.. how long should i wait.. i dont want to open the topic up again coz i dont want to look desperate... please help.. ****fyi, our background is like no divorce, strictly catholic, marriage before pregnancy*** he's actually in to it too...i wanted to have a baby badly.. what should we do...please help....
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
***parents are unable to help straight out...they're actually helping us by living with them at no cost..so whatever money we have from our work, we can save...ive told him that im not asking for anything big...my question now is after the talking, how long should i wait for him to put everything into reality...maybe i should leave him?
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