Dealing with an Office Crush
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have a long-standing 4 year crush/infatuation on a co-worker. He's aware of this and it's common knowledge at the office. I wanted a real relationship but he's not interested in dealing with me outside of work. It used to be manageable but recently I've made a fool out of myself and now I want to stop dwelling on him. I'm mad at my brain for thinking about him constantly and mad at myself for being so weak and susceptible to his charm and appeal. This whole thing really rips me up. I can't quit or be reassigned. Is there any strategy I can use that takes into account that I have to see him everyday and yet change the way I feel?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
hi i would say the office romance does not last longer, cannot imagine you want to someone 24/7. it is good to have someone diff at home to talk about work andother stuff. if you go out with someone from whta would you talk about at home?
don't be upset with the fact that the guy you were seeing in the office is not ready to make a committment, atleast you know where you stand with him and try to find someone outside the office and let him know that you deserve better than him.
Good luck, I am sure u will find someone better than him.
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