How to attract a boy
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
yeah well i just wrote to you, and ill paste my old entry here and your response.
ok, for starters, im 13. and theres this guy i like, but i never told him. hes really nice and stuff, but i knew he would never like me cause im not pretty and stuff. the thing is, i told a lot of people about him and someobdy i hated found out, but he said he would be quiet. but yesterday my friend said to the guy i like that she knows someobdy who liked him. he said yeah and then my name. then my friend was surprised that he knew, but she pretended like she was just shocked that i liked him. she said she likes you? and he said yeah. my friend said she was talking about someone else. she asked if he would go out with me, and he said im a good person but he doesnt want to go out with me. i was afraid that when he found out, he'd think i was weird or be embarrassed and things would be akward between us, but i guess hes known about it for a while and hes been acting normally. so what do i do now? i really like him and want to out with him, but he doesnt. help!!!
now heres what you wrote:
First thing to do is to make friends with him.
Doing this is pretty easy. All you have to do is greet him everyday
whenever you meet him in the hallway. Look him in the eyes and say in a
clear voice "Hi" plus his name, and give him a big smile.
Keep doing this until you feel comfortable enough to ask him how is
doing and later on chatting with him. If he is a nice person he will be
sure to like the attention you are giving him. Then you could ask him
well the problem is that WE ARE FRIENDS. like we talk a lot in our classes and have interesting discussions. so we are friends, but as you can see above, he just doesnt like me. any suggestions?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Don't bake cookies for him, that will make the situation awkward. What you should do is the following:
go all out normal for a while, (no make-up, nothing special, maybe for a week or so) then suddenly on monday reappear with highlighting make-up (not too much, try checking online for tips) nice hair (maybe few curls in the front?) and some stylish clothes (u) you (/u) feel comfortable in. If you're planning on wearing jewelry, remember: 3's the limit! if you wear a long necklace, wear short earrings. long earrings, short necklace, you know? dont overdo rings and bracelets either, it looks tacky. Then, on wednesday or so, after hes noticed, really flirt with him, and when i say really, i mean REEALLY flirt. Do this till friday, but make sure you're not getting in his way or bothering him..compliment him, as you walk by in class or something, casually put your hand on his waist as you turn around, say jokes, ruffle his hair(romantically, not guyish way :P) carry a book or two on your hips, dangle your backpack wth one strap and really walk the 'hip-walk'. try to showoff things you are really good at, like, i dunno, sketching, show it off a little :D. then, over the weekend, messenger or aim him. let him think bout what youve done wed-fri. then see if he wants to go out with you. i wish you the best of luck.
btw, dont ask him directly if he likes you, makes guys uncomfortable- again, good luck!
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