We need to talk but he keeps avoiding me, what should I do?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Recently my boyfriend and I have been fighting over stupid things like he promises me he'll call and then he forgets or he says he's going to come over and then goes out with his friends. I have tried to sit down and talk to him and he's always too busy or going out with his friends, but he says he wants to talk things out with me. And I really want things to be good between us again becuase I hate to figth and it makes me really upset. I know he needs his space and wants to hang out with his friends as well as me, but I don't want to be cut from his life entirely. I feel like he's almost stopped caring about me. He says he still loves me, but then he doesn't call and never wants to talk or even hang out. I love him very much and I don't want to lose him. Do you have any advice on how to talk things out or communicate without hurting each other. I don't want to be hurt anymore and neither does he. We need to talk but he keeps avoiding me, what should I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Well, sorry for that but that is a common occurence in the dating world. I was just chatting with my hubby last night on why some men just 'rebel' on their wives or gfriends and he said that men sometimes just need time to chill out with the boys and be one with them. If you try to cage him or control him, chances are he will run away or cheat on you to get back at you. It hurts but reality is give him the space and lots of it too. get the cue and develop an interest of your own and let it occupy you and your time as your bf unwinds and gets a breather.
That is just how men are made, not to be caged or even feel like they are in any way.
Loads of luck.
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