I am in love with a married man
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am in love with a married man. We have had a romantic relationship for a year and a half and we are so in love. We know that we are meant to be with each other. We talk about being together some day. In my opinion he has the perfect life and I don't know if I can see him throwing it all away for me. He tells me that true love is so much more important than "things." Do I wait to see what happens? Do I tell him to figure it out and when he does to find me if I am what he decides? I feel anxious and I don't know what to do. I know he is my soul mate and I don't know what I can do. Please help!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
If you started out as friends, i hope you first acted as a TRUE friend would by talking about his marriage with him, and making him realise that he could lose something great by being with you. He would make the decision to be with you and to divorce her if he thinks you are worth it.
YOU are worth his decision, esspecially if you are in a sexual relationship, STOP if you have any respect for yourself and/or him.
I am the close friend and ex of a married man whom cheated on me with the woman he is now married to, and i was so jealous thinking he would change for her. Guess what? he didn't. He left me, married her, and even a year 1/2 after their marriage, he asks for sex and does the same thing he did with her (when he was cheating on me) with me only i don't allow the sexual part.
The point is, chances are, if he does it to her, he'll do it to you. IT's not cheating if he is single or with you, so like i said, if he respects you enough, and his wife, and any values, he will divorce her, or better WOULD HAVE ALREADY......but that's not saying he's a person to trust. still, it seems like he's making himself miserable by being married which is so stupid don't make yourself miserable by being with such a confused....soul.
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