HE SAYS ALOT OF THINGS A MARRIED MAN SHOULD NOT BE SAYING
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I HAVE BEEN READING MY HUSBANDS WORK EMAILS, THERE IS A GOOD FRIEND OF HIS THAT HE IS CONSTANTLY EMAILING. HE SAYS ALOT OF THINGS A MARRIED MAN SHOULD NOT BE SAYING, EVMN JOKING AROUND. COMPLEMENTING HER BODY AND SAYING THINGS ABOUT HIS BODY THAT REALLY ONLY A WIFE AND HUSBAND SHOULD BE JOKING AND TALKING ABOUT.
HE DOES NOT KNOW I AM LOOKING, BUT I KNEW SOMETHING WAS UP. I DON'T WANT TO CONFRONT HIM, I WANT TO KEEP LOOKING UNTIL I HAVE A NICE PILE TO THROW AT HIM.
WE HAVE A GOOD MARRAIGE AND GOOD SEX, BUT THIS IS JUST NOT RIGHT, THEY EVEN HAVE PET NAMES FOR EACH OTHER.
I AM SO CONFUSED AND DISGUSTED, I DON'T EVEN WANT HIM NEAR ME, AND HE HAS NO CLUE.
User Submitted Advice from a unknown year old Female
Confront him with no distractions around.
just remember: you both need to be more honest with each other no neither of you has the right to blame the other for dishonesty. But YOu DO have the right to blame him for being disloyal which is a bigger fault in a marriage. (although i find both go hand in hand).
I know a married man being dishonest in the same way, and he is doing more than just emails behind the scene, i was the girl he talked to in that way, when she came in the room he'd change tone like a light switch, he's even faked an argument once! it gets ridiculous.The main thing is, he should not be married yet. The woman deserves better, and so do you.
If you love him enough to stay with him, you need to TELL him what he's doing wrong and be prepared to listen to him tell you what your relationship with him may need (as for why he felt the need/want to do the eamil thing) and how you can install that as you also regain trust, but it will be hard work. It depends how long you've been married for,as well. It's possible that there's nothing either one of you can do if your values/feelings are just not the same.
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