Jealous about her past because she had videos
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I've read the articles on being jealous of past relationships and they have helped except for one thing. I know I shouldn't be jealous of past relationships/partners but the problem is that one day I saw a video that she had on her cell phone with her and another partner from her past and this really got me sick to my stomach and still bothers me. Is it abnormal to be very upset about this? Also, she had this partner's number still in her cell phone along with many other numbers of other guys. Also, she used to be a dancer in different strip clubs until she quit when we started our relationship. Some of these guys still kept trying to call her and we had an argument in which she decided to finally change the number. She says she loves me and I do believe this and I love her very much but how should I cope with this situation? Please give me some advice. We want to get married and start a family and I don't want these feelings of jealousy plaguing me throughout my life.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
listen you need to be smart about the situation even though you love her it dosent mean that she loves the life she once had . you said she changed the number so you do know one thing she has given yalls relationship at least one effort. always remember that to love is to forgive and to forgive is to forget that means for ever know matter how hard it is you both are going to have to make sacrafices and stick with through sickness and health through thick our thin remember that if you dont give her trust then shes might just say well oh well he dont belive me now so why not. i hope i didnt insult you are make you made in any way but good luck to you and your life ....from Sucetta
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