Should I move and leave my love behind?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Female
I have a problem that I haven't seen on your website.I am having problems with my job and I have come to the point that I don't want to live here in this town and I want to move on,maybe further my education,find a different career,etc.I stayed here because my mother was ill and needed someone to be with her.My mother passed away suddenly in June.It has been difficult for me in that I was the one who found her.I have been with a man now for awhile.We have started getting closer since my mom died.He has been very good to me and we both love each other very much.When I told him that I want to quit my job and move somewhere else,he became upset with me.I told him that we can start a new life together,but,he doesn't want to.He has family and friends here and feels like he is too old to change(I'm in my 40's and he is in his 60's).I don't want to leave him behind in that I love him very much and would miss him!I feel so torn! A part of me wants to stay with him and another part wants me to go and live my life! Do you have any advice? Thank you!!
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
There are no easy answers ... I recently lost someone who was very special to me and my world is full of regrets ... she has moved on and even though I want it back, it will never happen.
I guess the only advice I can give is that you decide what is best for you and never look back at the if only's.
Easier said than done I know.
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