Is this just me or is she cheating?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Okay first off....I'm not sure if this can be called cheating but I didn't know where else to put it....
I'm dating someone with whom I had a previous relationship before, we dated for 3 years and split up for two, now we're back together(by her request) but things don't add up anymore..
I really love her and try to be the best boyfriend I can be...but my problem is this
Whenever we're in public, she will try and hide the fact that we're together..whenever we're at a club or party, and there's an attractive man, she will chat to him, but when I aproach her, she will seem distant, and never mentions anything about us being together, so when I try and kiss her, she will back off.......I didn't ask her to get back together...I was getting better(cause I really had a major breakdown when we broke up) and was on my way off moving on, SHE ASKED ME BACK!!. she was the one who "saw something in me" that night we got back together....now she playing this damn game all over again, most of her friends are males, and every man I know wants to get in her pants...it's a constant struggle to keep them away, and then if I do mention anything about it to her, she says that I must stop being so jelious, and that they're only friends.......She is MY girlfriend, I have a right to show it........
Do you know what's up with this woman? because I'm getting sick of this, I love her very much and would do anything for her, but this is our last chance, and I really want to see where this can go, but the way she acts is driving me away....
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Talk to her
Hey man, I was reading this & I was thinkin damn! That's kind of the same thing I went through before. I was with this girl once. I remember her having a lot a lot of guy friends and I didn't like it. Just as you said you did. I would also try & talk to her about it. She told me the same exact thing. She said I need to not get jellous, there "just friends". So I let it slide by. My advice to you is. "Have a good long talk with her" & tell her exactly how you feel about the situatioin. Tell her your feelings for her. I would say something like, "I don't feel so comfortable when I see you talking to other guys even though you say yall are just friends" Let her know that & see what she says. If she says the same thing about being jellous. Just say well hey,"your MY LADY & of course I'd get jellous if I see you talking to other guys. It's because I love you that much & I don't wana lose you." that's about all you have to do. like I said, just have a good talk with her. Hope that helps a little.
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