Try again, or give up?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
Well, sorry, didn't take your previous advice. Why? I waited too long... Here's the story: My crush's good friend told me that she just started liking someone else (She used to like me..). MY good friend, didn't believe it, so he asked my crush himself. It was true.
He got mad at her, because he knows I really really love her, and it turned into quite an argument. She didn't understand some of the things he was saying, so when I got her alone, I explained, confessing how I felt about her in the process. She told me that we were best friends now, and she wouldn't want to ruin that friendship (If we got together, but then broke up it could end the friendship). I understood this fine, and agreed to stay best friends. It isn't akward at all, we even make jokes about it.
But, the thing is, I still want her. The guy that she currently likes is a year older than us, so it's likely it won't last long...
Do you think that this is just a lost cause, or that I should continue to persue her? Thanks.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Big no no
WHOA!!! You told her how you felt? BIG NO NO! Never admit to a woman that you're trying to begin a relationship with that you like her. You told her, and she replied with the usual "It would ruin our friendship." Translation: She isn't attracted to you. You couldn't avoid the friend zone, son. I'm really saddened by your story, because it is a textbook example of everything you are NOT supposed to do in that situation. You became friends, confessed your undying love, and STILL agreed to be friends. Bad move. You'll figure it out though, don't worry. And who knows, maybe she'll come around. I asked a good friend of mine out, got shot down, and a month later she ended up asking me out. We've been together for 2 years.
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