HOW DO WE DO IT
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
Me and this girl are madly in love with each other and we are even thinking after highschool about getting married but theres one problem her mom hates me for no reason and my girl firend isnt really supposed to be dating anyone my girlfriend is willing to go behind her mothers back and I love her with all my heart and it gets stressful having to meet in secret and having to look over our shoulders we kiss and we are both madly in love with eachother and in about a year she said shed give up her virgintity for me when she started the pill but im afraid that her mom will find out see her mom is upset that her childhood is over so she lives her life through her daughter and she fixes her daughter up with total jerks im the only guy thats respected her and truly loved her but her mom just dosent even understand that im good for her and that shes wrong we both love each other so what should I do
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Wait for sex
Ok, I'm going to be straight up with you. One, you are 13-15 years old YOU SHOULD NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT HAVING SEX!!!! And here is a little hint about the pill...IT IS ONLY ABOUT 80% OUT OF 100% THAT THE WOMEN WILL NOT GET PREGNANT; CONDOMS ARE ABOUT 80% BUT WITH THE CHANCES OF THEM BREAKING. Just because she is on the pill does not mean that she can not get pregnant. My best advice I can give you is wait it out. If you truly love her tell her look I love you so much that I am willing to wait until we are old enough and mature enough for this. Baby's are a big responcibility and not cheap. So, wait until you are stable and can afford to have a kid before taking that risk. Yes, sex is a wonderful experience but please just wait until you are older there are too many young mothers in this world and the last thing you need is her mother finding out that she is pregnant by a guy that she doesn't even like.
second, the mother thing....talk to her mom...ask her how she is doing...be polite and act like a gentlemen...women love that..trust me. Tell her how you feel about her daughter but do it in a suttle way...dont just blurt out I love you daughter..she will look at you like your crazy and tell you that you dont know what love is..tell her that you really like her daughter and that you respect her..women also love to hear the word respect put into play. Best thing to do is do what the others have said and prove yourself to her mother...and dont go behind her back because one day she is going to catch you and trust me she will...MOTHER'S ALWAYS KNOW IT'S A SIXTH SENSE TO US...just be honest with her.
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