how to make being away from him for an extended period of time any easier
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hello. My boyfriend and I go to college together during the year, so I spend a LOT of time with him. Now that we are on summer vacation, I find myself thinking about him all the time and I start feeling sad and missing him a lot. Is it normal to think about him so much? Does this mean I'm in love? Also, do you have any advice on how to make being away from him for an extended period of time any easier? Thanks.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Well I don't know how long this has been posted for, but if you're still looking for advice, I have some comfort. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and he is in college in SC while I am finishing high school in PA. The first year was very hard, especially bc we were only dating for a few months before he left. You are kind of the opposite of us, I see him on breaks and summer, but not during the school year, which is good to keep us focused, but it is very heart breaking when he isn't there to give you a hug at the end of a bad day, or help you cram for a big test, or calm you down after a fight. I know we are young, but we are pretty sure we know what true love is, and we have grown and become more responsible through it. He just returned to school and we are now in the 3 month stretch, where i will only be able to talk to him via cell. If you think about how much you do have, vs what you don't and know you will see him again, (what the movie Catch and Release made me appreciate) it will seem easier. I admit I cry a bit and have my moments, especially since my two best friends are on vacation for my first hardest week, but it only gets better right? We have begun to plan for the future and sadly it gets harder for us because he is in a military college and will most likely be sent overseas army after he graduates and when I begin grad school, so think of it this way- you have it better than us. lol, sad but true. Just remember being sad is expected, but does not help anything, so keep yourself busy and when you get down, make sure you are with someone you can talk to. Writing all this is just as helpful for me as it prob is for you, so thank you. Good luck and if any of us ever comes back to this website, give some updates. Take care
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