friends with benefits
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I've been dating this girl for about two months I really like her and want to make it work. Everything seemed to be going great. I told her that I don't want to know about her past and how I wouldn't like to meet anyone shes ever been with. she stayed quiet, and I said "I've already met one haven't I?" she said no, but I might in the future because they're really really good friends. she says it started as a friendship, then they had sex one day, after that they had sex whenever they wanted. till this day they remain close friends. "where there was a fire there's embers", so I've become a jealous paranoid freak. truthfully im uneasy about the whole situation, I don't know what to do and desperately need your advice. thank you.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Oh, I know all about this topic. Friends with benefits..it comes in many forms. In your case yes they are friends and they "USE" to have sex. Whoop ti DOOOO it happens to a lot of people trust me. Honestly trust is major concern but meet the guy first dont judge him because of his friendship/past with your gf. Meet him and see what kind of guy he is maybe it wont be as bad as you think. Friends with benefits never become serious it is a level of understanding between two people that this is it and nothing else. Just meet the guy and if you still feel the same way then move on but in the end it might actually work out and one day all three of ya'll can hang out.
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