what should i do
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
my friend tim has a girlfriend named rose.well,i went over to their her to see tim.i know it was wrong but i took alot of these pills.i'm not sure what they were and i don't take pills so i was really messed up.i stayed there and don't remember anything.rose told me we had sex that night and i don't remember.should i tell my friend?he's the type of person to get very violate and expecially over rose because he loves her.i don't want to start all that drama between us.and to make matters worse they have a baby and rose could easily take the baby and i know tim
will leave her.she has her own place,job,and car.tim doesn't.i don't want him to lose his baby or start drama between us.i would've never did it soberly.i feel so low.what should i do?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Here's the deal and there's a few ways go at this. Keep your mouth shut and hope no one else tells him.
Maybe Rose is lying about having sex with you. My experience has been that this is the sort of thing you can actually recall at least partly later on. If you don't remember anything, it may not have happened at all.
Tell Tim that Rose is cheating on him. Let him hear it from you before he hears it from someone else. Keep in mind that if he hears it from Rose, it may be totally twisted and unrealistic version of the events.
Those are your options.
If he's really that violent, maybe Rose is looking for someone to "take her out of there" and hopes that you'll do it.
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