My Boyfriend is Signing Up for Dating Services
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years...in the beginning he cheated on me, but has been faithful for the past year and a half. Recently, he has been looking at porn online and setting up profiles at online dating services (he doesn't know that I know this). I don't know if I should trust him. What do I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
I just had this problem with my current boyfriend. We had been together for a year and a half. We actually met on a dating site and connected immediately. About a month ago, long story short, I found out that he had NEVER taken his profile down when we started dating.
Not only that but as I started investigating, he has 5 sites total that I found.
The advisor is right. Porn is one thing..which is still unacceptable to me... but it's a whole other thing to have someone on a dating site.. the sites are for dating and hooking up.
My guy's lies included that he was bored at work and he just liked to look at the profiles... I asked him, "Well why on earth would YOU have a profile up complete with picture and everything????"
It truly didn't matter what he said after that. I knew the truth.
The truths are: I was with someone who I can't trust, I was with a liar and I was with someone who WILL cheat.
I broke it off and I don't regret it for one single second.
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