My G/F gets so hurt that I cant be passionate 24/7
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I am having an extremely difficult problem. I have been dating my girlfriend for over 7 months and I Love Her dearly...After 4 months she was forced to move in with me b/c she lost her job. Now its a tight squeeze since I only have a studio however we make it work. As much as I do miss some privacy I would rather have her here than her have to move back home 300 miles away. So on to my problem. She and I are very affectionate and enjoy a great physical relationship. I pay lots of attention to her and always give her plenty of hugs and kisses daily. However she wants more kissing than I do and she gets all upset when I am not in the mood to reciprocate. What I mean exactly is she wants intimate passionate kissing all the time and I am not always in the mood for it. She always wants to make out and snuggle and when I am not in the mood she gets upset and makes comments like "its not like it used to be and I miss it" This is NOT after sex. After sex I do all those things..She will start to cry sometimes. I dont know what to tell her. I love giving her bunches of regular kisses all over her cheeks, neck and lips, and hug her but the making out is not always there for me ! She will initiate it and if I dont want to I get grief.
I know how things cool down after awhile and you dont jump each others bones every 5 min but I still show her a TON of affection. However its not enough. I curl up every night with her when we sleep etc etc ..What do I do ? I am sick of her making me feel bad for not wanting to suck face everyday and curl up with her when I am not in the mood to do it..I give her plenty and I am about to go nuts...
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Hey, I have this problem with my boyfriend. He loves to kiss and hug ALL THE TIME. I love him and I'm into it, just not ALL THE TIME. We've had tons of arguments about it, and i've been accused of not 'wanting' him and yadda yadda. SO, my advice, just talk to her. Sit her down, and just try to make her understand that you love her...but you can't be that passionate all the time. Good Luck!
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