Im so confused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I liked this guy for ages now and he knew that i liked him before but now i've started to love him. I really don't want to tell him as I think thats going to make things worst. He is kind of my friend but most of the time he's talking to me, it sounds like flirting but I'm not sure wether it actually is.I know he likes me too but as a friend, i'm not really sure if he likes me that way even though i feel he does. But sometimes I feel that he also likes my best friend who likes him as well or my worst enemy who's always flirting with him. I don't really know what to do, everyone says that we are a great match but for that to happen he has to like me first and I don't know wether he does. If he didn't go for me, I'd like it so that he went for my friend but what if he wen tfor my worst enemy. I'm so confused about what to do? should i tell him? should i be friendly or flirty? should i just ask him out and hope for the best? or should i just hide it like i have for the past several years and bottle up everything inside? i'm so confused!!!!!
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
You know when you start putting your feelings to the side and not showing any affection as to you caring for someone. then how are they supposed to know? and if you are showing affecting and hinting around it could be either he isn't really that interested and being nice, or he just doesn't see. the best way to work on this would be to be up front and honest about it all. For 5 minutes of holding your own feelings behind could be 5 minutes for someone else to take your place. there is no need to rush things, it is a good idea to make it very obvious though.
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