We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been with my boyfriend for over 2yrs and we have a 7 month old baby together. I love him with all my heart but I think i pushed him away with my jealousy. I want to know if im overreacting. when we go out, he is always looking around and it always upsets me. He says im insecure and that he likes to look around and that its normal.I try to get over it but everytime it happens it bothers me and he knows it. Maybe I am insecure but i dont think i would be so jealous if he payed more attention to me. He says he doesnt act loving and affectionate to me because i make him uncomfortable and he feels suffocated and he cant be with me anymore. I dont know what happened, is there anything i can do ?
User Submitted Advice from a 51-60 year old Female
Staring at someone other than your partner is disrespectful. a man/woman has plenty of opportunity to stare and ogle others when not with their partner. Glancing and appreciating how another person looks is normal, ogling is disrespectful and would make Cindy Crawford feel inadequate. Are you just supposed to sit there uncomfortably staring at your food as he/she looks over your shoulder minutes at a time, ignoring you? It is not you and your jealously, its his disrespect for you. To ignore it creates stress for you. I feel he/she cannot control an impulse to obviously stare, knowing that you are face to face, he/she would not be able to reject an advance from them if he/she was not with you.
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