He gets mad when I question him.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My partner is always doing things with his ex girlfriend. He tells me they are best friends. We have a child together. Everytime they go out I am never invited. I know she doesn't want me there either because she still wants him or that she doesn't like me because I'm with him..SHe never comes to visit our child even tho they are "best friends" they only time she sees our child is when he picks her up to go out. I have read a few of her comments about me joking about the three of us going out but then saying "OVER HER DEAD BODY".
He comes home to me every night. He's a great father. I don't tell him to stop hanging out with her because she is his only friend and they have known each other for years. He promised me I have nothing to worry about. Everytime I question him he gets angry as if to make me think he's sick and tired of telling me the truth and I never take it.
Everytime I try to talk to him he tells me I'm over reacting and that he's with me.
BUt then they stil hang out and she is so fake to me but behind my back she says snarky things about me and he just ignores it.
Its frustrating because as a friend she should be considering my feelings and she should be respective of my feelings as well as of th fact that he has a family now.
HOw can I get her to back off without actually talking to her because she jokes about everything.
I don't want to lose him. I hope I am just over reacting but everyone knows that YOU DO NOT LET UR MAN HANG OUT WIT HIS EX....and my partner does this ALL THE TIME !!!!!...
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
The fact that he flares up says a lot about him.He's being in 'denial'&possibly has a skeleton in his cupboard.Don't be fooled,your husband is expected to make things work between you and his ex- anything different from that proves his insincerity.Does he love you the way you love him?If he does,he ought to be concerned about your happiness.However,someone needs to make him realize he's not playing fair.And if you can't do that,seek a Prefessional help.See a Marriage Counsellor.He's making you feel insecured and putting you under emotional pressure.You don't need that from someone you claim to love this much.
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