He Still Checks his Dating Profile
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I met this guy through an internet dating service. We have been dating for a couple of months now. He has always been quite keen and i was the first girl he met through the site although i have dated many guys before meeting him.
I had taken my profile off the site just before i met him as i was fed up of meeting the wrong kinda guys and he knows this.
We had a date a couple of weeks ago and i asked him how his dating was going and he told me that he had taken his profile off the site and i was his 'first and last'
I regularly check the site to see if he is on there, and although his profile is visible, he hadn't logged in there for the past 3 weeks, which was a good sign to me!
Unfortunately i went into the site today and saw his profile on there and he had logged in within the past 5 days.
I am a bit upset about it and am not sure how to confront him. I don't want to make out that i have been checking up on him but i wish he hadn't lied to me.
How do i tackle this one?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
I disgree with the approach suggested...to wait three months to discuss this again... If you've agreed to exclusivity in the relationship, you shouldn't have to keep reminding the other person to remove their profile. I think it's true, people are addicted to the ego stroking that online dating provides. I think the people who can't shut it off are 1) insecure and 2) inconsiderate. I'd move on if I were you. You can't trust this guy.
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