can't choose between two guys
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
i was dating this guy for about 2 years and my father had suddenly passed away. i wanted to be left alone so i pushed my boyfriend away. At the time i felt that it was his fault i did this. I stayed away from him for a long time. its 5 years later, i am engaged to another great guy. I have been with him for 4 years- but for the past year i have been talking to my ex and seeing him on the side. i realized now that he did nothing wrong and just tried to be there for me and i pushed him away. i love both guys and they are completely different. my ex told me he could never stop loving me and looks at me like i am his world. i like the way they both make me feel. I have tried the "pro and Cons" list, talking to many people- and still no real help. i loose sleep over trying to decide if i should marry this guy or do i have a deeper connection with my ex. i have held off making plans for awhile now- i need serious help. i would always be thinking of who im not with. what do i do? how could i just end it again with someone for no reason?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
I THINK YOU SHOULD BE OPEN TO YOUR FIANCEY AND TELL HIM YOUR FEELINGS AND WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU, YOU WILL REALIZE WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU JUST THINK IF THEY BOTH LEFT WHO WOULD YOU MISS THE MOST I HONESTLY THINK YOU SHOULD STAY WITH YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND BECAUSE IF YOU ALREADY TOLD THE OTHER GUY TO LEAVE YOU ALONE AND HE DID WITHOUT LOOKING FOR YOU THAN HE IS MAYBE NOT WORTH IT JUST FOLLOW WHO YOU HAVE YOUR HEART MORE OPEN TO WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK
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