I always start the arguements
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend argue all the time, and usually it is my fault. I always start the arguements, and he tells me i am childish. I don't know what is wrong with me, but i know i have a problem and i want to fix it. I love him so much and i want our relationship to work. I'll do anything to make our relationship work. I know if I don't change our relationship will end. We are so in love and our love is so beautiful except for the fact that I have to argue with him all the time. I have very low self-esteem and that could be part of the problem. Help please!!
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I know exactly how you feel, i have been in a relationship for a year and am very much in love. However we cannot make it through the day without having an arguement which leads in me shouting and then him loosing his temper. Its got to the point where i dont know if its me or him in the wrong. We are both very angry people and this always causes us to take things out on eachother. You always hurt those who you love. Same as you we are seen as childish and argumentative but really all we want is to feel that we can open up to them. Dont always blame yourself coz there is always a reason behind an arguement it just may be one so far back in your relationship that still bothers you. To overcome your behaviour you need to believe more in yourself and relationship and overcome what it is on your mind.
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