Flirting with a Shy Girl
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
Theres this girl in my class, i really like her, but i have a problem. Im trying to get to know her better and have her as a good friend before i can ask her out. But unfortunately she is shy and i find it hard to talk to her because i am worried about making her nervous.
Furthermore, i cant really hang out with her after school cause she doesnt hang out to much, since shes a shy girl. I need help, what do i do. i really like this girl
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
talk to her
Try making natural conversation whenever possible. And by natural i mean simple, everyday talking. Ask her for the time, ask her questions about a mutual friend, say hi to her when she walks past. These all sound really simple and uneffective, but if this girl is as shy as she sounds, she's gonna need to be eased into the whole 'flirting' scenario.
And i also think, contrary to the advisors advice, that you SHOULD stop if she becomes nervous. If she starts blushing or fidgeting or whatever, find a way out and leave that conversation for the moment (not for good).
Also try doing things with her and a group of mutual friends (if there are any). This will make it easier for the two of you to talk, without making it seem as if you've singled her out!
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