My Husband has Lost Interest in Sex

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Original Visitor's Question from a 61-70 year old Female
My husband is the love of my life. We are in our fifties and been together 10 years. For the first few years we had the most amazing sex life, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. But for the past 4 years he has been impotent and for the past 6 months he has no desire to even cuddle me, and he has stopped saying he loves me unless I drag it out of him. He has high BP, and sleep apnoea. He works very hard, and is also upset that he cannot make love. Viagra makes him sick.

In January he suggested that I find someone else for sex. I yearn for the old physical relationship we have. I have met a man who is in a similar situation to mine, he and I have met for lunch and coffee, and he is very very keen to see me...says he thinks about me all the time, and has to control himself not to phone me or try to see me every day. We haven't had sex yet, but we have discussed it, and both want to....except I feel nervous and sick thinking about what I am doing, maybe I am risking my relationship with my husband...

he SAID go and get a lover but saying it may be different to his reaction if I told him that I have! I don't want to rub his nose in his inability to satisfy me. If only he could cuddle me I think I could cope, but he just doesn't seem to want any physical contact. I am not ugly, still have a good body, men still find me attractive.

User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female

im in the same situation and have been for 11 years and both my partner and I are now in our mid 30's me being 5 years older than him.
He advised me the same!!! So i did..........
There's no such thing as a bit on the side. Emotions get in the way, you carn't stop it! You will fall for this guy and come to resent your husband for putting you in this situation in the first place.
It's made things between use worse than eva, and we have 2 young children.
Not sure if I can stay within this relationship anymore.
Please don't carry out his request if you hav'nt already?
It WILL ruin your marriage.
Good Luck.

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