Please give me some tips on how to act around guys
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi. Okay... I think I am a pretty girl. I'm a nice person but.. I don't know what is wrong with me. Slowly I have gotten better at talking to guys but I can't get any to go out with me. So many guy friends have said I am beautiful, smart, caring.. and so on but if that's true then what's wrong with me. Only the guys I don't want seem to go for me... The guy I do want.. is the first guy I have ever asked out.. he was flirting with me but he is a big flirt and he said he liked me. For the first time ever i felt like a guy actually could like me, but then he eventually said no to going out with me because he wasn't ready for a girlfriend or something but I don't know if that was just to protect my feelings. Please give me some tips on how to act around guys and what my problem could be since I am pretty, (although not conceited) I'm not unpopular (although not like the queen of the school) what could I do? I hope this isn't too long but I have depression and avoidence personality disorder so i freak out easy. please help.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
confidence is key
well i myself have been in those exact shoes. The guys you arnt interested in always want you and the ones that you want never want you back. Your question was how to act around the guys you are interested in and the answer lies right there in the question.You have to be yourself. NO ACTING. when you are around guys that you have no interest in you are able to be yourself. When you are around guys that you like you think you have to get their attention or impress them in some way. But in reality its actually a turn off. So my advice is to relax and let your true colors show always. Confidence is key. On a final note in a world where u can be anybody. Be yourself
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