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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am pretty good friends with this guy. We eat lunch with the same group, are cast opposite each other in the school play (for the second time), are both on the comedy sportz team, basically have the same friends and teachers, and even share a vocabulary book. So we spend TONS of time together, not necessarily one-on-one but still. He's a complete goofball, who doesn't worry about life, while I am a basketcase who is deperate to add some fun to her life. Over the past few months I've been hanging around with more of my guy friends, which includes him. Lately he has taken to calling me a "guys girl" I've been working so hard to avoid this. I don't want to just become one of the guys, at least not according to him. Yes, I want him to feel comfortable around me but I don't want him to think of me as a guy! I've been everything in my power to show him that I think of him as more than a friend, but I don't think I've been getting the message across! I've even done the whole touch the shoulder, play with the hair, stare straight into the eyes, etc. Both of us seem to have trouble with intimacy, we're not really huggy people (also, he's really tall as in over 6' and I am really short as in under 5', so its difficult)and I don't want to worry him with my problems. Often when I'm around him I over think everything, I don't want to be annoying so I stand next to him for a minute then leave and come back and stand next to someone else so he doesn't think I'm pesky. How do I send him a clear message? I want him to know that I like him, I just dont want to be the one to say it.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
ok so u r good friends with hem, start talking to hem on the phone or on the computer,get pretty for hem only. tell some one the person that u tell can help u out (good).go out with hem and have some fun so he can remember all that good times with u only. like what my friends say the guys like happy,fun,and pretty girls.and your haight make no differance. it is better he is like a bear whae u hug hem!
and when you stand by him, disappear, the come back and stand by someone else is not cool!!! talk to hem: be there 4 ever. peace good luck i hope uget this guy.
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