My GF is jealous of everything and anything.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
In 2 days its going to be a full year. We dated a long time ago, puppy love like. Than we started hanging out again and now its been a year of a great relationship. The problem is the not stop fighting over pointless stuff. I know its something hard for some to deal with, but its getting out of hand. She gets jealous over everything. Watching tv, with half naked girls popping up every now and than, which i cant control, she say " ya like that." She thinks i hide stuff from her. She thinks are friends, who we havent chilled with in a longgg time flirt with me, and I flirt back,or ignore her, which isnt true in my visions. I dont flirt with other girls. And than the past experiences. Or taking a pic with my arm on a girls shoulder.She gets upset immediatly than freaks. I dont know what to do anymore, I dont know what will stop her jealousy, even though I know thats its going to ultimatly tear us apart.
Any suggestions, cause I love her soo much.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Don't hurt her
I am the same like your girl friend and I know it can be horrible to deal with, just remember that these things are really hurting her, things like putting your arm on a girls shoulder, if it is not such a big deal than why do it. I know you cannt help tv and things, just as long asit seems like you are trying to respect her feelings than she should seem to get better. It is a trust issue too, maybe she has been cheated on before and is warry it well happen again. The best advice I can give you is to be pachenat (i know i cannot spell) and let her know that you would never trade her for any of them, walk her though it and she well get over it easy and it well not bring you down. But once again, if it is not a big deal, like looking at a girl in the mall or holding a girls shoulder that why do it. Just remeber that it is hard for her to deal with and you would not want to hurt her. It may feel like it is contorling you but she needs you to repect how she feels. Because emontions cannot really be helped, the only time it well seem like they are is when she is hinding them and that is worse.
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