My Husband is Falling Victim to a Flirt
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Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Female
My husband,daughter and I have joined a group of people from his work at tailgate parties during football games. We have been doing this for 3 years and only recently have I been noticing another woman and her attentions toward my husband of 18 years. She is 20 yrs younger than us, lives at home with her parents and engaged to a man for 12 years who is the group drunkard.
She has recently been talking a great deal to my husband, sitting in front of him during games, laughing at everything that he says, and paying him exclusive attention at all times. She just talks to me to ask questions about my husband, but nothing beyond that. My husband seems really flattered by this and says that nothing is wrong with the way they act, but he has never done this type thing before. He likes the attention and won't stop it.
He once went to a dinner without me, saying that I'd be bored, even though I attended last year. He says I am being paranoid. It is driving me nuts that she has attached herself to him like this. What can I do to make either this jealousy go away or them cool this behavior?
User Submitted Advice from a 51-60 year old Female
I would take control of this situation and become friendly with her and maybe have a nice party and invite her and her fiance along with numerous handsome, available, smart, witty, chatty, muscular, and hopefully rich and successful men. Obviously find the men first before giving an invitation. Have fancy placecards and seat her surrounded by them. Hopefully she'll be more attracted to one of them more than your husband. You will appear to be charming and gracious (to your husband) and get compliments on the food and nice party. Also, be sure to have a manicure, beautiful hairdo, and the most fabulous, classy outfit for the party while telling her to dress "casual" or just wear "a modest dress" because the preacher is coming. This will give you more power. Also, you can buy a title online from regal titles.com and you can be a "lady", "countess", or "duchess." The party could be in honor of one of your achievements so that the focus will be on you. Your husband could send you beautiful roses for the party and you could praise him for it in front of all of the guests. Make a kind toast to all the guests and prepare a special one to your husband naming lots of wonderful things he does for you and the children and grandchildren so she can hear how he adores you. Have lots of your wedding pictures and children's pictures all over the house. Invite your relatives, your minister and his wife to the party, too. Be sure to include your husband's boss. That may help your husband to be inspired to behave properly. If your husband starts talking to her too much, have a plan such as 1. joining in the conversation asking her questions such as what her wedding date is, how many children they plan to have, about her family, etc. 2. offering her more food 3. ask your husband sweetly if he'd mind helping pass out the dessert or something other duty 4. ask her fiance or one of the single gentlemen to escort her to her car or for anything else she needs.
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