He Abuses Me - What Do I Do?
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend started dating when I was 15. I am 21 now. The first 3 months were fine then he started being possesive and abusive. More mental than anything. He told me I was fat so I went on a diet and lost 50 pounds but it wasn't good enough I weighed 115 and he wanted me to keep going. He cheated on me several times and threw it up in my face like it was a game.
We were together for 3 years and I finally told him it was over. I left and met someone else but couldn't stop thinking about him. I was getting married and I was pregnant. But I changed all that. I couldn't imagine living my life without him. I left my fiance and got an abortion so I could go back to him.
For the first time we moved in together and it has gotten really bad. He is mentally and physically abusive to me. He brings girls to my house and sleeps with them. He never comes home. He leaves and turns his phone off so I can't find him and then when I do call he screams at me and calls me a stupid ignorant whore. Even though I have only been with 2 people in my whole life. I don't think thats being a whore.
Please help me I don't know what to do. I can't see my life without him but I can't take living like this anymore.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Your story is scary and I hope that you are in a safe place right now. You deserve much better treatment and I would suggest confiding in someone that can help you escape this situation. As soon as possible leave the situation safely and don't look back to the things you have done so far. Start anew and take care of yourself and teach yourself how to love YOU first before attaching to a man. Very important to gain love and respect for yourself to stand up to a situation like this. Best of luck, you deserve a better life
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