how can i stop feeling like this?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and i have been going out just over a year now, i am 20 and she is 18. We live about 15min drive apart and it has always been hard for me as my girlfriend likes to party alot and go out to bars and clubs which im not really into and much rather stay at home, when i do go out with friends to clubs or bars i just find myself worrying about her or just not really enjoying it. But when i spend the nights at home and shes out in clubs or pubs i find it incredible hard not to worry about her or to try focus on somthing else. To make it worse a few days ago whilst she was out in clubs she went back to another mans house n sleept with him ,she said it ment nothing and there was no feelings between them, and that she was just scared about being in a long term relationship at such young age. She is now sure she wants to be with me and would never do anything like this again. I belive her when she says this and were back together. But now i find it even harder not to worry about her when she goes out, really hope can help me
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
One more chance
The advice i give to you is that you should give her one more chance. If she does someting like that aginn, you should totally break up with her. Sex isnt a toy, somthing that should just be handed out like candy(even though, many paople treat it like that) I would break it off right after I found out, but everyone should at least have 2 chances. How would you know that she isnt going to do it agin. If she really cares and relized she loves you then maybe you should talk to her and tell her she shouldnt go out and party as much, maybe at least once a week if she really has to. If she can do that then maybe you REALLy can trut her if she can respect that. If you ask her to and she says no, then maybe you shouldnt be in a reltionship with her. Im sure that there are more girls out there that you can be with that is more responsible and respects that. It sounds like your girlfriend hasent groen up yet, but she needs to, maybe you need to be with someone who has grown up yet allows fun in there life or who spends that time partying WITH YOU. Tell your girlfried that everytime she goes out and party that you'd rather be there with her.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you.
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