How do I get closer to a long time friend without destroying several friendships years in the making?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Male
I have been friends with a certain lady for a very long time. I recently returned to her area after several years, I had remained in contact with her. She is currently "unattached" and we got together recently for the first time in years. I find her more beautiful now than ever. At our meeting, there was a lot of eye contact, etc. But I don't read too much into that. I would like to move to something other than being "just friends". Another thing is, several members of her family also are friends with members of my family. A couple of her family members are also my friends. How can I slowly move into a more romantic direction? Should I at all? If it all ended in disaster, it might damage many years of friendship between several people.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Make her laugh
DON"T talk about it with her. Women respond to emotions not words. Once they like you, words work wonders. But to spill the beans to early is a big mistake. It seems to me if your that close to her family there is plenty of oppertunity be around her. It's up to you to make it happen don't drag you feet and let another 20 years splip by. Just spend time with her, if she's truly a friend she'll want to do things with you and you'll get to know if this is what you really want as well. women want to be a round a guy that makes them feel good and unless she shallow and is only attracted to looks or money or worse yet an image they conjured up in there mind, Then any guy has a chance at any girl he if he can make her laugh.
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