I don't know how she feels about me...
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I've known her for a a couple of years now, and I sort of dissappeared on her, when she showed the most signs of interest. I don't know why but I knew I liked her too. But I got embarrased about doing bad in a class that we had and so I dissappeared until I caught up to her. I know its stupid, but thats what I did. I finally caught up and saw her again, we hit it off again and she was happy to see me. my feelings came back and I really like her. so a couple of weeks of seeing her in class, I asked her to go to the movies with, then things flew by after that and now a couple of months have passed by. we talk and see each other alot, I made her dinner a few times, she made me dinner, we talk and laugh together.
So I figured its a good time to tell her how I feel, I had 3 chances. After I took her out to dinner and a movie, I was about to tell her, but I hesitated and just gave her a goodbye hug.
second time, I was copying notes from her at her place and I gave her an early christmas gift that she really loved. we ended up assembling it together and I taught her alot about a hobby I like. so before the day ended I told her I have to tell you something, so when I was about to leave. she locked the door and walked me out, and instead of telling her, we ended up talking about other things for a while. Right before I left she said, don't tell me, I'll let you think about it some more.
So after alot of thinking, I couldn't hold it in any longer and tried to tell her again, and I called her and waited outside her place and when she came out, she said " before you say anything, let me talk. I don't want you to tell me because if you do things will get weird. and I don't want to ruin what we have between us." I kept prying but I didn't get any good answer from her other than "I'll tell you when you can tell me"
so I don't know where I stand anymore, she knows I like her, but I don't know how she feels about me.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Dude.Honestly.She said "I'll tell you when you can tell me". If you wanted my opinion it means she is starting to consider the possiblity of being more then friends.Right now she isnt.But if she didnt think there was any chance she would not say that there would be a time where you COULD tell her. So have some patience.Try to increase physical contact.Grab her hand and point at something like a new car going by or the sunset.USE PATIENCE.
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