Where do i go from here?
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
First a little history, me and my ex girlfriend met when we were about 12(her) 14(me) and we date for a bit but the distance between us was too great so we broke up. we stayed friends and 8 years later we started a relationship. The relationship got serious we talked about getting married and the future, almost 3 months into the relationship she tells me she needs time alone cause she isnt over her ex boyfriend who she dated for 3 years but have been broken up for 3 years to this date. She tells me she has to figure out if she wants to be with me or him. Well we stay friends and we see each other about every other day for about a week almost like the break up never happened anyway one night we stay with eachother and i find out she is going to see this ex boyfriend the next who lives about 1.5 hrs away. Im not ok with this so out of jealousy i put a hickey on her neck while shes sleeping, i know i shouldnt have i wasnt thinking clearly at the time. Now she wont talk to me or return my phone call. What do i do to get her back or atleast get her back as a friend atleast?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
you probubly just did it because you thought you should mark your territory, thinking the other ex-boyfriend would see it and back off... what you should try doing is thinking for yourself in her position. would you talk to you again? i mean if you haven't noticed she was trying to figure out her life, who sher loves and who she doesn't. instead of puting that hickey on her neck you should have talked to her about it i mean you could have ruined the rest of her's and your love life!bring her some red roses tell her your sorry and that your an idiot and tell her how you feal and felt. The key to a relationship is honesty and trust. you may have dug a whole but you can still fill it back in...
The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer