Sick and Tired of being sick and tired
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
I am in the aftermath of an unfaithful wife. 9 yrs ago she got a little to friendly with a co-worker and she told me of it, and kiss was the extent of it. That situation was hard, and I exploded into a fury of tears and anger. But we got over it, worked through it. Now almost 2 years ago she got another job and again got to friendly with a co-worker. only this time it went further. Disgusting, filthy garbage. Hiding in alleys, going to parks, going to empty parking lots, make out sessions and oral sex twice (so she says). It has taken about a year and a half for her to spill what she calls the truth of what happened and why. Heres my question....I DON'T FREAKIN' BELIEVE HER!!! It doesn't make sense, and if it does not make sense it is not true! ooops.....back to my question.....I honestly feel more has happened, and I think she may go to her death bed denying it. How can I know if what she says is ALL that happened, is really true? She has done this twice.....She is gonna do it again isn't she? This whole ordeal has taken so much out of me, I emotionally feel sick....tired....spent. Someone please help me. WHat should I do? I would walk away from here tonight, but we have 3 children and I don't want them hurt. I am just sinking in frustration, pain and misery and anger.....I feel like exploding.......I am just sick and tired, of being sick and tired.......please help
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Can't control her
Does it really matter if more has happened? Isn't cheating on you twice enough?! You and your children deserve more. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and head straight to the the counselor. She's already proven she can't stay committed. You can't control her actions, just how you respond to them. Slowly going insane with rage and hurt isn't the answer. Dealing with your feelings is. You owe that much to yourself and the kiddos. Best of Luck
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