Why do I worry so much?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now and things have been running very smoothly. Just recently she has come across a couple old guy friends that she has not seen in a few years. She has been hanging out with them every now and then. My girlfriend would never cheat on me or do anything to hurt me & put our relationship in jeopardy. Is it normal that I get an un easy feeling in my stomach when I picture my girl hanging out with other guy's? should I worry so much? how can I put my mind at ease and press on?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Put mind at ease
you trust your gilfriend right? i know its hard not to get that uneasy feeling alot of people may experience it .. the feeling may be jealousy but maybe the thought of her caring for others guys?
there is no way to stop this feeling in your stomach except stoping the thoughts in your mind. The feelings you are experiencing are all through the mind. TO stop these feelings in your stomach you must put your mind at ease.
You and your girlfriend have been together for 6 months and you say she wouldnt do anything to hurt you.. so why all the worry? i believe you are worrying to much, worrying is a very common thing and easily done but you have to think throw and say a coupe things over throw your mind. You and your girlfriend love eachother dearly, you want your girlfriend to be happy? her seeing these guys wouldnt involve any cheating or anythin but making her happy seeing her friends.. dnt you want her to be happy? if she really knew that you were upset about this she would be a bit distraught as she wants to be happy and you not approving of her happiness? you need to let the future run its course. Your girlfriend loves you dearly and if you ran into a couple of girl friends that you spent time with but new nohtin would happen between them but your girlfriend didnt agree and this made you happy but she didnt like it would you?
i suggest you turn this around and try thinkin of it at another angle
let love run its course. love and trust your girlfriend as much as you can ! because worryin about it and stayin awake at night is not going to change the facts of the future but make you upset and confused.
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