He's Playing Head Games
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
Rather than ask a specific question I would like to ask for general insight. For the last five months I have been seeing a gentleman who seems to enjoy head games. I would never confront him because he would only use it against me. It seems everytime I take a step forward he takes a step back. I know how traditional that sounds but this is a matter of control.
Each time I express more than a casual interest he either 1) Ignores me or 2)reacts sarcastically. It's only when I don't call or write, when I don't run over to see him or just when I go about my everyday thing he starts calling. He pays me all this attention until I begin returning the affection and he pulls away. When I act cool, he becomes cold. He used to compliment me a great deal now he finds ways to critique me.
To wrap this up, he seems to only want what he wants when he wants it and only wants what he can't have. Does this sound at all like a head trip? If so, how does a person handle someone like that?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Where can I find "the rules" book. I need it. It should be able ot help me. I am 29 involved with a 38 year oold man that acts like this. I need assistance ands help. Thisway I am doing what I need ot do to stay same and protect my heart.
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