I really want her back
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Me and my ex had been dateing for 6 months everything was great we were always doing fun things togeather. Always laughing and smileing we both had deep feelings for each other at one time. Then all of a sudden she started telling me that she feels like she has not done anything with her life and that she wanted to break up while she figures out what she wants. So we broke up and then that same day that night she called crying and said that she was sry and that she really did want to be with me, but she wanted to take a break from seeing me and talking to me for a week to see how she felt after that. Well the following weekend we went out and had great time but ended up ending things again. She told me it was not me it was her that she is weird and just needs time to figure out her life. She assured me that their was no one eles and that she still had deep feelings for me. So I waited two weeks and asked her out to the place we had our first date. The whole night I acted as if everything was great, we had a really good time when we got back to my house she started to cry and climbed in my arms telling me sahe did miss me and she still likes me a lot but that she just needs time and space to figure out her life. What should I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
I would like to tell you to give her space and everything is going to be fine and she'll figure things out... but because of my experience I cant! I am 20 years old and dated my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. She was my everything and I was her everything. We hardly ever fought throughout our relationship. She started to tell me that she wanted time apart because she was so busy and wanted to see her friends before going back to school. So we kept dating, we just stopped hanging out as much. I thought everything was fine but then she kept telling me that she needed more space and needed to figure things out. She promised me that there wasn't another guy or anything like that. Well turns out that she started liking a 30 year old guy that she worked with over the summer. Our situations were the same where she would be fine and then call me crying or come over crying. She was doing this because she knew she loved me but she was just really confused about whether she wanted me or him. From your story our situations sound pretty similiar... I would probably have to say that there is someone else in her life that she has developed feelings for. She comes to you crying because you are her comfort zone... My girlfriend never lied to me in our relationship, up until then. So my advice to you is to be careful, very cautious, but very understanding. I've made all the mistakes in the book about trying to get her back and go figure we're still broken up. I hope things with you turn out better! Good luck.
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