I'm 27 - She's Only 14
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
There is this girl in my life that has been flirting with me for the passed two years. And for the passed two years I have considered it a invitation for friendship which I accepted. Then she began to flirt with me a little more intensely. But I became uncomfortable with how much more it was so I back away slowly. Then one day I woke up and I had this strong felling in my heart that I was in love with her. Then I began to observe her behavior to make sure she was some one I wanted to court. And I found that she is funny, intelligent, virgin, pretty, cool, and the list gos on. I mean I've bean waiting all my life for some one like her! When I found out that she is 14 my heart sank to the bottom of the abyss.
This makes her 13 years younger than me! I don't want to have sex with her because I practice no sex until marriage, purity is very important to me! But my heart still longs for her with platonic love. I asked her how old she thought I was and she said 19, O how I wish I was 19! When I toled hear I was 27 she became embarrassed and now she avoids me. I want to love her, but I'm afraid of the unpure villagers. They might come after me with pitch forks and torches. I can't help but feal like a beast right now.
So how do I make things good between us again? I know persistence will make thing worse. Even if love is out of the picture I still strongly value her friendship. Is their any hope?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Keep your distance. I don't know how you got in touch with her in the first place but I'd say that if you keep talking to her in that setting it's safe. But calling her and going to her house now are too much. Weight at least till she is eighteen to do anything more. I knew of a man and woman who were fourteen years apart are were very happy. IF you are willing to be her friend at least till then...maybe you can make it work.
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